A woman has asked the internet if she is being unreasonable for not wanting to attend a party to celebrate her friend paying of her mortgage.
User Nannasofffiraapint took to Mumsnet to express her frustration at her friend for hosting this party, when she believes she has had a huge amount of financial support from her family.
She writes: “She’s never had to pay for a holiday, parents bought all her cars, paid for lots of work to her house including an extension, even paid for her divorce settlement! She’s been gifted at least £300k over the life of her mortgage. How would you feel about attending such a party ?? It feels a bit fake to me.”
“My husband laughed his socks off when I told him about the party invite he said ‘bank of mum and dad’ paid the mortgage off,” she continues.
One user called the party “vulgar” and another said “It is a very strange party. Just don’t go.”
Some users suggested the idea was crass in the context of the current financial situation in America, with TiredButAlive writing, “In the current economic climate it seems somewhat crass. I suppose the only thing that would make it better would be if she was equally generous to others, a sort of ‘pay it forward’ kind of person. Is she?”
WimpoleHat agreed, “I think it’s probably an ‘any excuse for a party’ sort of thing, but it’s a bit crass/tactless/lacking in self-awareness” as did toomuchlaundry, “I too think it’s crass especially at the time most people are struggling financially. We were lucky enough to be able to pay off our mortgage a few years ago. Don’t think we have told anyone never mind have a party.”
To put this in to context, the U.S. is potentially on the cusp of a financial recession. According to the Financial Times, consumer prices rose one percent during the month of May, and 8.5 percent from a year ago, the highest level since 1981.
Increasing petrol prices affected by the war in Ukraine and Russian sanctions—as well as a 1.2 percent rise in food prices and a 0.6 percent rise in housing costs with soaring rents—mean the average American is more aware of their finances than ever.
There were some comments in favor of the celebration, however.
One user pointed out, “Is she single and/or child free? It may be a push back against constantly having to take time out for (and spend money on) weddings, christenings, children’s birthdays, maternity leave collections at work etc. I’ve definitely seen a trend towards women wanting to celebrate milestones that are not linked back to traditional family set ups. Which seems fair on the face of it…”
While SmileyPiuPiu wrote: “Initial thought.. very odd reason to have a party. Now thinking, why not, people gave parties to celebrate their baby’s genitals after all.”